Don’t Talk About It!

It is interesting to me that when I post articles here that are upbeat and positive, I get a lot of “likes” and comments. But when I post about subjects that are uncomfortable like gun control or politics I get very few comments and likes. I’m not pointing fingers of blame. I love my readers and always encourage people to be themselves, but it is a pattern I’ve noticed and the answer as to why delves into many areas. Plainly said, people don’t like to talk or think about uncomfortable subjects. As an unwritten rule many of us learned that you were never supposed to talk about religion and politics in public. Mostly I think, because people have strong opinions on those subjects and arguments are started by bringing them up. But if people do have strong opinions about subjects like that, why don’t they talk about them and voice those opinions? Because it’s uncomfortable.

And we don’t like to be uncomfortable. Because being uncomfortable is well, uncomfortable. We don’t like being seen as having any faults, or biases or prejudices. But the fact is, we do. We all do. This is not a popular thing to say and I’m probably not going to get many “likes” for this. My thought on this is, if we don’t talk about uncomfortable things, how do we ever get anything resolved? How do we solve our problems if we don’t talk about them. People spend millions every year telling their problems to therapists but not talking to their friends about them for free. Why do we do this? Maybe because we want to seem like we have it all together in front of our friends? We don’t want our faults and biases to show? We want to be cool and hip and yet we’re an emotional wreck behind the scenes. If we let our guard down, someone will get inside and see what we’re really like. And then what? People will really know us. That’s what.

We need to talk about uncomfortable things. Maybe not personal things but things like racism, bigotry, politics and religion. We need to talk about the pervasive gun culture. About brown people locked in cages. About Native American rights. About Palestine and Israel. About Fascism. We need to talk about these things because they are problems for us and the world, and they won’t resolve themselves. We have to somehow get over the uncomfortableness of talking about things by just doing it. Sticking your neck out, as is said, and talk. Get it out there how you feel. After the initial stickiness you may find others joining in. You may find a lot of people agree with you and then you have something important to talk about. Social media is a great platform that a lot of people use for superficial things. Not that that’s bad but it can be used for so much more. It’s actually easier to talk about uncomfortable subjects on line because you’re not face to face. But we need to do it. Now.


  1. This raises a current issue for me: to address a disturbing stereotype at the reunion or let it go. It’s just a mascot of a squinty-eyed (Mongolian? Chinese?) warrior with a Chinese sword. It’s such a lovely effort by our classmate John to make a selfie-frame for our reunion! How can I object to that? I can’t. I just know that when I saw the “Raiders” mascot painted on the frame, I was relieved I did not attend the reunion with my Asian husband and expect him to stand by an Asian image that strikes me as racist- and smile for our portrait. That old image needs to be retired and replaced. Let’s not revive it for the sake of nostalgia. This is the kind of thing I didn’t think about, until I did. This is why I would be no fun at a reunion, heehee.

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    • There are many things that we question today that we didn’t think about growing up. As we become more culturally conscious we realize the white male dominance of our country and just how hard it is for some to let things go.


  2. John Lennon said something like, “Telling the truth may not get you a lot of friends. But it will get you the right friends.”

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